There is something about a Canadian spring that makes me want to garden. After a long, cold, restricting winter, it’s hard to resist the beautiful colours of the annuals on display at the store or the fresh green blades of grass as they burst forth all around my yard. This rush of excitement and euphoria must be carefully thought through, though. You see, planting in spring means nurturing, weeding and tending all summer long if I want a garden that brings me delight. Similarly, marriage usually starts with lots of excitement and warm sentiments toward a spouse in those honeymoon years or months, but a marriage that is not nurtured and prioritized soon becomes a chore we cannot easily get out of without hurting the ones we love.
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Wayne Reedhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngWayne Reed2024-03-06 18:01:212024-03-06 18:30:32When couples need extra help in their marriage
My mum has always said, “We were called; they were drafted.”
Raised by full-time missionaries, my brothers and I grew up knowing that my parents had been called by God to the life we lived in Quito, Ecuador. I, however, certainly felt drafted! It was not my choice to leave my beloved grandparents in Canada for the mountains of Ecuador. I did not feel “called” to live in a house with bars on the windows, nor did I choose to endure earthquakes, military coups or tear gas drills at school. And I certainly did not feel “called” to live with lizards in my bed or scorpions in the bathroom!
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Shari Lauhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngShari Lau2023-04-27 23:42:142023-05-04 22:26:32Raising “drafted” kids on the mission field
Most of my memories from childhood involve waiting around an empty church. Since I was too young to be left at home, I would often be dragged there to sit around, probably playing Pokémon on the original grey brick Gameboy, while my dad prepared for a service or event.
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Luke Campbellhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngLuke Campbell2022-05-02 17:13:032022-05-02 17:13:03What pastors’ kids need from their parents
I’m what many in the church refer to as a “pastor’s wife.” I haven’t always been one. I gained this title or label almost nine years ago when my husband, David, accepted his first pastoral position as associate pastor of our church. Up until then, we both had careers but were very involved in lay ministry together.
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Vicki Hooperhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngVicki Hooper2022-02-02 20:10:332022-02-02 20:10:33Building a thriving marriage in the midst of ministry
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Pauline Doerksenhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngPauline Doerksen2021-12-01 18:36:162021-12-01 18:36:16What I learned from a Christmas tree
A few days ago, I enjoyed lunch out with a friend after a Sunday worship service. My friend is a pastor. She is a woman. She is also single. Not surprisingly, as we talked about our lives and friendship, elements of these three life circumstances – single, woman, in ministry – appeared again and again. Since then, I’ve been thinking a lot about singles and ministry. Read more
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Karin Gregoryhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngKarin Gregory2019-05-27 18:35:412019-07-12 15:30:19Solo servant leadership: Single and in ministry
As wives, we do understand that there are inopportune moments when you will be needed. But, not everything is critical. Use discernment and wisdom. A prayer meeting can be postponed or even better, someone else can lead it when your son is in the final game of the season. Read more
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Marilyn J. Carlawhttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngMarilyn J. Carlaw2019-05-25 00:02:322019-07-12 15:30:19A message to pastor husbands from a pastor’s wife
How to listen to your family, even when you don’t feel like it
“You never listen to me!” The words came choking out through Andrea’s tears. I suddenly felt off balance. What was happening here? I’d been Andrea’s dad for 15 years and a psychiatrist for eight. I was a professional listener trained in reading nonverbal signals, hearing between the lines, giving undivided attention and offering empathetic responses. Read more
At the end of a recent counselling session, a client told me that her pastor is on leave from the church ministry. I was thinking the pastor must be on some sort of medical leave, but my client further informed me that her pastor was involved in an affair with a ministry worker from another congregation. My heart sank when I heard the news, and I was angry because the evil one has once again successfully brought down a servant of God who appeared to have a vibrant ministry. Read more
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The day of our ninth anniversary was a much-anticipated milestone. It had been almost three years since I had contacted Focus on the Family Canada for advice on how to stop my husband, Don, from looking at Internet porn. Read more
http://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.png00Anonymoushttp://clergycare.ca/app/uploads/2019/04/ClergyCare-2018-300x100.pngAnonymous2019-05-23 23:52:372019-07-12 15:30:47Our battle for a porn-free marriage
